“Life is partly what we make it, and partly what it is made by the friends we choose.” -Tennessee Williams
Start by thinking what it would be like for you to hear from someone who has lost touch with you, specifically someone you’d really like to hear from. Is it an old classmate, a distant friend, someone who has moved away, a relative? Having imagined that, think for whom you’d like to provide that kind of a positive surprise. Consider making a list of people you haven’t seen for some time or those whom you miss. Choose one of these people and take steps to reach her/him. Any style of communication is fine but you will get more from the exercise if it extends beyond an email or voice mail message to some kind of exchange. If that act of connecting isn’t a kindness act in itself, then extend the action to include doing something kind for this person.
If you find this theme difficult or problematic, please feel free to interpret it another way. See if you can stick to the theme of reconnecting, though, perhaps by reconnecting to something other than a person from your past.
I really gave this theme a lot of thought this week.
And I tried it on a couple of different occasions, and with different people. And all were delighted to hear from me, and it only served to strengthen our relationships.
One of these was my son’s speech therapist. She last saw him in November, when we learnt she was expecting a baby. I was thinking of her, so decided to get in touch to say just that – that I was thinking of her.
And she was truly overjoyed. Part of her reply was “I’m just so thrilled you emailed, I love to keep in touch and hear how all the gorgeous kids I have met are going, I really appreciate your email. I hope you are going well too”.
Although it didn’t extend beyond email – and in another case text message – I have made plans to catch up with everyone in person.
Thank you Andy.