The idea this week is to try to see a conflict or difficult situation from the perspective of the other, someone important to you. To do this, you may really need to slow yourself down, especially if you find yourself worked up about the situation.

That unto itself, the slowing down, is a kindness to both you and the other person.

Additionally and in the spirit of imagining what it would be like to feel what someone else is feeling, talk to someone about who you’d like to try being if you weren’t you. Imagine being this person for a day or longer.

It’s okay to choose a real person, living or dead, or a fictional one like a character from a book, TV show, or movie to whom you are drawn.

In your conversation, try answering the following questions:

  • What are the qualities or circumstances that draw you to this person?
  • What is the first thing you’d do as this person?
  • Does anything surprise you about the experience?
  • How do you feel?


  1. Went straight back to wishing to look through the eyes of some of my students with special needs, I think only a moment in their minds could either drive me insane or give me that far deeper understanding of how ‘they’ perceive the world. Imagine being autistic with extreme tunnel vision and no ability to speak. I’ve had deep bonds with many of the people I met this way joining me in the journey of natural gardening, because of both our curiosity and wish to engage in human contact.

    1. I’ve had a similar experience when working with children, especially those who see the world differently than most. Thanks so much for taking the time to comment. I really appreciate it and your thoughtful way of engaging with people. –Andy

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